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Friday, May 21, 2010

Brides Behaving Badly, Could This Be You?

I was on my annual shopping spree armed with all my birthday gift cards and heading to the mall. First stop...the lingerie department at a major department store. I was on a quest for new bras that fit. Why is it EVERY time you find a bra you like they discontinue it? Anyway, I'm in the dressing room trying on bras and there are two brides trying on honeymoon lingerie. They try it on, pop out of the dressing room, take pics of each other in the lingerie and sext it on to their fiances. They didn't buy ANYTHING...this was just a fun time for them. The clerk was busy tending to them and bringing them in more things to try on. They had excuses every time why they didn't want the item. When she left the dressing room, they laughed and took pics. These brides weren't 18 years old, they were late 20 something women dressed in the latest fashions.

I wanted to tell the clerk what was going on and I probably should have. I sure wouldn't want to be the one to buy the thong that they were modeling. Ewwwwwhhhhh.

So I amble downstairs past the jewelry department. I am easily distracted by shiny objects. There is a huge section of bridal jewelry...all with return tags on them. The clerk said to me..."I know what you are thinking, and yes, they wear it and return it. There is nothing we can do. Somethings they pop out a stone and say its defective. Sometimes they tell us it doesn't match their dress. We know better, but the store says we have to take it as a return if its in the time period and they have a receipt." OMG....isn't this a form of stealing? Its sure not borrowing, I know of no department store that has a borrowing policy. That's just wrong on so many levels!!

OK, I'm done venting!!

Weddings, Why Not Accept Professional Advice?

Attention Brides! If you need professional advice, ask for it. Some things are just not do it yourself projects, weddings are one of those. Yes, you can do it yourself, but get some professional advice. Its there, its there for free in many instances just by ASKING the question.

Case in point: Wedding in a park on a Saturday on a spring day. The weather was brutal that day, wind gusts of up to 65 mph, rain, and even some scattered snowflakes. The bride had a picnic reception planned, but the weather didn't cooperate. She had no Plan B in case of rain or cold. She was using her friend as her wedding consultant, this chick had no clue. Her friend talked her out of renting an enclosed park shelter, because as she put it, the extra $50 could go to other things. The park tried to talk to her, the groom tried to talk to her, she wouldn't listen. This was her friends job as a wedding consultant (she had no training at all) and she listened to her friend. The wedding was a bust. It was so cold the bride had to wear a coat over her wedding dress and the groom a hoodie over his tux. The guests sat in their cars and then left. They ended up hauling the food back to their garage, where the remaining guests ate in their garage. The flowers were damaged from the cold, the tablecloths blew off the tables and everything was in chaos. If she had only listened to a pro!

Fast forward: There is another wedding tomorrow at the same park...same scenario. No shelter, no place to go if it rains. Guess what? Its supposed to be cold and rain all day. We have family members in the wedding, they are dreading it because of the weather. Most of them drove for hours to be in the wedding. Who wants to get all dolled up and spend time dodging the rain and the cold? This bride asked me for advice, I gave it to her....get a Plan B for weather and rent the shelter. Her friend talked her out of it. My guess is that all the wives of the guys in the wedding will leave before the ceremony.

Weddings are supposed about the couple, but if you are having a reception, its also about making your guests feel welcome and comfortable.

If a wedding professional is giving you advice, don't assume its because they want to sell you something. It may be that they are trying to put you on the correct path to having an amazing wedding without glitches and without chaos. Ask me, I'll give you advice for free.