Alia asks: How can we ask for money instead of gifts
at our wedding?
There is no polite way to ask for money instead of
a gift. It's tacky. A gift is a gift, accept it as
such. There are people uncomfortable giving cash as
a wedding present, as there are people who would
rather give you cash instead of a gift. You'll get both.
Expect neither and be pleasantly surprised at
whatever you receive. That's part of the fun!
If you already have a household set up,
there are still things you can use or won't buy for
yourself. A barbeque grill, power tools, books,
gift cards, yard tools, lawn chairs: think outside of the
box when you register. That's why you register, to let
your guests know what you want, need and can use.
I am not a proponent of asking your family to
spread the word you want cash. It's tacky
to ask for and to expect money.
If you get something you really dislike or
duplicate gifts, return it and get something
you can use.
